I witness someone talking about how they didn’t feel good enough after looking at social media.
Once I had a good friend and we were having this same conversation.
I asked my friend, “how can I not get frustrated when I see people so far ahead of me in life while I feel like I am stuck on pause”?
My friend said something to me that kind of stuck and now if I start having these thoughts again, I think about what he said and redirect my energy back to myself.
My friend said, “if you were busy enough with your own life, you would not have time to stop and look around at what others were doing”.
I could have easily taken that the wrong way, but it made sense.
I was not putting enough energy into focusing on myself. Because of low self-esteem, I was stalling and paralyzed with fear. I was afraid to take a step because I didn’t like how my life was going and I didn’t think it could get any better.
I had to pull myself together and start working on myself.
I’m not saying that we don’t all have these thoughts from time to time, but you can’t stay there. You have to get to work on yourself.
Start creating that life you want by doing things that are in your control.
You might not have the things you want now, but what habits are you incorporating in your life to change that.
One way I begin to work on myself is I started painting. I had denied myself from enjoying pleasurable activities for a long time because I felt like it was pointless.
What I did not realize was that not engaging in pleasurable activities was causing my life to be out of balance. That lack of balance caused frustration, anxiety, and depression. I was always focused on problems at work and daily life stressors.
When I started painting, I got EXCITED because I was accomplishing something I didn’t think I could accomplish. Plus, it was something that I created that no one could take away from me.
I also started doing other things as well including making music, learning a new language, learning to play the guitar, engaging in more exercise, eating healthier, exploring my spirituality and so on.
Little did I know, I was getting to know myself within and at the same time creating a life I enjoyed. Then on top of that, I was happy about sharing myself with the world because I felt like I had a lot of exciting things going on in my life regardless if I was single with no kids.
So the take away is, put down the social media and start exploring and discovering more about who you are and what you want out of life. Make goals and then small steps to begin working towards having the kind of life you want. Remember, you are the creator and it’s up to you to create the life you want.
In what ways have you created the life you want? Comment Below!