When I think about social anxiety, I imagine the student that is afraid to engage in any extracurricular activities in school, the adult that is afraid to speak up at work during a team meeting, the person that doesn't leave home much to avoid crowds, or the kid that cries when it is time to… Continue reading What the Heck is Social Anxiety?
As for clients I've done therapy with, there's always a stage where clients often feel down on themselves about not making the progress they've hoped for. Where they want to be versus they are, seemed to be so far and wide. They didn't feel any closer to where they wanted to be after having a… Continue reading Signs You Are Improving In Therapy
I have always felt drawn to cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) as a psychotherapist because it involves changing perceptions. So in other words, for me that meant many people could benefit from CBT techniques. During my work with community mental health, I quickly learned about the lack of resources plaguing our communities. Sometimes events are completely… Continue reading Thinking, Feeling, and Behaving: Free CBT Worksheet
Please, do not ignore someone who comes to you for help. They may be experiencing depression, anxiety, or some other mental health issues and just want to feel safe. Some people fear judgment and not being taken seriously. Trust me, if they have reached out to you, they either believe you will try to help… Continue reading Being Present For Those In Need
Self-acceptance is about accepting yourself for who you are and the way you are. It's easy to love and appreciate what you perceive as "good" about yourself. However, self-acceptance includes accepting your past, your mistakes, your failures, and all else that you might feel ashamed or disappointed. Self-acceptance is giving yourself love unconditional love regardless… Continue reading Self-Acceptance: Are you denying yourself?
I've heard clients say, "I don't really have a reason to be depressed" or "my family doesn't think I have anything to be depressed about". I've heard family utter "they can't be depressed, they have everything they need" or "they can't be depressed about that, that was so long ago". I have even heard "they… Continue reading Depressed For No Reason
My mother told me something that always stuck with me. She said... “You don’t have to wait until it gets bad to break up. If you are unhappy, you should be the first to make the decision to call things off.” From this very moment I understood that she was saying all that mattered was… Continue reading Is it right to leave my relationship?
To all my people who struggle with exercise, this talk is for you and me. Exercising is something I have struggled with all of my life. I've had periods where I engage in a great exercise routine 4-6 days a week for an 1 hour or more for weight loss. I've also had times where… Continue reading Struggles With Exercise
As a black therapist and even as a client I have experienced racial bias within the counseling profession. Despite the emphasis on diversity that is part of most counselors’ and psychiatrists' training, I continue to experience racial bias in my field. I have witnessed other helping professionals reinforce the stigma associated with mental health and… Continue reading Racial Bias: A Black Therapist Experience
Sometimes people who experience depression feel more depressed at night; so much so, they fear nights and dread the night coming. But why? Think about it. At night we are normally alone, tired, and engaging in less activity. There are not as many distractions, so it easy for the mind to ruminate. Rumination is when… Continue reading Fearing Night Depression