As for clients I've done therapy with, there's always a stage where clients often feel down on themselves about not making the progress they've hoped for. Where they want to be versus they are, seemed to be so far and wide. They didn't feel any closer to where they wanted to be after having a… Continue reading Signs You Are Improving In Therapy
Self-acceptance is about accepting yourself for who you are and the way you are. It's easy to love and appreciate what you perceive as "good" about yourself. However, self-acceptance includes accepting your past, your mistakes, your failures, and all else that you might feel ashamed or disappointed. Self-acceptance is giving yourself love unconditional love regardless… Continue reading Self-Acceptance: Are you denying yourself?
I've heard clients say, "I don't really have a reason to be depressed" or "my family doesn't think I have anything to be depressed about". I've heard family utter "they can't be depressed, they have everything they need" or "they can't be depressed about that, that was so long ago". I have even heard "they… Continue reading Depressed For No Reason
As a black therapist and even as a client I have experienced racial bias within the counseling profession. Despite the emphasis on diversity that is part of most counselors’ and psychiatrists' training, I continue to experience racial bias in my field. I have witnessed other helping professionals reinforce the stigma associated with mental health and… Continue reading Racial Bias: A Black Therapist Experience
Sometimes people who experience depression feel more depressed at night; so much so, they fear nights and dread the night coming. But why? Think about it. At night we are normally alone, tired, and engaging in less activity. There are not as many distractions, so it easy for the mind to ruminate. Rumination is when… Continue reading Fearing Night Depression
I witness someone talking about how they didn't feel good enough after looking at social media. Once I had a good friend and we were having this same conversation. I asked my friend, “how can I not get frustrated when I see people so far ahead of me in life while I feel like I… Continue reading I Don’t Feel Good Enough Because of Social Media
Short answer “you can’t”. If you want to live a happy life, you have to change the way you think about yourself, your circumstances, and your outlook on life. In the counseling field, we have something called “changing your narrative”. It’s basically you changing your story. Not into something that is fake or a lie,… Continue reading How can you live a happy life if you think you don’t deserve one?
It seems that nothing can be more scary than having health issues and needing to go to the doctor for a checkup, but what about having mental health issues and needing a counselor or psychiatrist? That can be even more scary for some people. No one wants people to think they are “crazy” or “not… Continue reading Self-Care: Are You Good, Mentally?